IF AGE IS
JUST A NUMBER, CAN I LIE ABOUT MY AGE ON A DATING APP?
I think I
might know what you are thinking, and part of me agrees. People really should
not begin relationships with lies. Usually the lies taint relationships rather
irrevocably. Moreover is one not capitulating to ageism to fudge on this basic truth?
But with new research and scientific thinking, the concept of “biological age”
may be more of a reliable indicator than “chronological age”. If people are busy
“swiping left” based solely on a number, which I have done countless times,
does that not skew one’s search? Maybe some of these 75 plus year old men I
shoot down are fitter, healthier, and sexier than those youngsters in their
60’s that I ponder over.
Every time I
open Tinder, Zoosk, Match, etc., I remind myself to not overreach, but stay
within my “I could get him” level. Why waste time and emotional energy
communicating with someone with who there will, most likely, never be a
connection? But if I want this playing field to be fair and accurate, doesn’t
lying about my age give me the “handicap”, as it were, to level the playing
field? After all, often, but not always, men are looking for younger women, or
at least they are frequently accused of doing so. This is merely a fact I
cannot even get angry at, men want what they want. Often these wants are more
like biological imperatives that are half hidden in the unconscious mind. And,
women are capable of this wanting of younger mates as well. I am just not going
to argue with any of it. But given all this, how do I accurately portray myself
to the “I could get him” crowd? And who might that crowd be?
There is a concept,
which has been around for a while, about chronological age versus biological
age. Chronological age is just what it sounds like, the number of years one has
been on this planet, a number I strive to forget on a daily basis. Biological age
sounds much more appealing, but what is it, exactly?
According to
https://www.healthline.com/health/chronological-ageing: “The basic idea behind biological aging is that aging
occurs as you gradually accumulate damage to various cells and tissues in the
body. The actual number comes down to different biological and physiological
development factors”. Some of these include: chronological age; genetics (for example, how quickly your body’s antioxidant
defenses kick in); lifestyle and nutrition (overeating
can cause aging to accelerate); and diseases and other conditions. Using these guidelines along with various mathematical
models, medical professionals can figure out what age your body “acts” like it
is.”
I first learned of biological age years ago from Dr. Oz.
There is an online test you can take that goes into detail about nutrition,
lifestyle, body fat, mental health and other aspects of personal health, to
determine your biological, or “Real Age”. The last time I took the test I was
apparently only 59 and ½ (I am 68), although I have to admit I fudged a little
on the amount of belly fat I have (I plugged in the amount of belly fat I
thought I would have after I finished losing weight (that is almost legit,
right?). At the end of the day, I decided
my “dating age” would be 63, as I figured there was no way I would be able to
pass for 59 and 1/2.
Staving off aging and death has always been an interest to humans,
think Ponce De Leon and The Fountain of Youth. My continued google searching on
the subject brought up interesting information. Derek Beres wrote an article
for www.bigthink.com entitled “Youthful thinking Can Slow-Even Reverse-Aging,
Research Suggests”. Beres
referenced a 1979 experiment by Ellen Langer, a Harvard psychology professor, which
found that the manner in which each of the subjects in her experiment thought
about time influenced the metabolic processes in their bodies. For one week, a
group of “elderly men” essentially lived in a time capsule, a retreat center
that had been tricked up to reflect 1959. They were told to live as if it were
20 years prior. Studying the men after a week in their cozy retreat, Langer
found that the men looked younger, and showed improvement in memory, vision,
hearing, and physical strength. Perhaps this means that the money I have put
aside for my medically necessary facelift (ha ha) can be used for buying a cute
little RV.
There is interesting
information on the role of exercise in reversing aging. An article by the Mayo
Clinic (“Mayo Clinic discovers high-intensity aerobic training can reverse
aging processes in adults”), says that high intensity aerobic exercise “…can
reverse some cellular aspects of aging. The take away is that “supervised” high
intensity training reaps benefits metabolically and “at the molecular level”. Continuing
on, the article describes “science stuff” that would be remiss of me to try to
explain. However, there is one clear caveat. If one reads what is reported in
“Cell Metabolism” (a scientific journal referenced in the Mayo Clinic article):
the upper limit of the amount of exercise has not been established, and, at a
certain point becomes unhealthy.
Another “age reversal
remedy” floating around out there is “hyperbaric oxygen therapy”, also known as
HBOT. According to MedicalNewsToday.com, HBOT is a treatment that originated in
1662 and “involves breathing almost pure oxygen in a special room or small
chamber”. “In the 1940’s, HBOT became standard treatment for military divers in
the US”, as it treats the decompression sickness that sometimes occurs after
diving. Currently, the FDA approves HBOT for an additional 13 medical
conditions (hyperbaricmedicalsolutions.com).
According to Dr. Shai
Efrati, Director of the Sagol Center for Hyperbaric Medicine and Research in
Israel, clinical studies conducted by his team demonstrate that through the use
of HBOT “…the regeneration of brain
tissue and other important capabilities, is indeed possible” (as reported in
“thevillageshealth.com). In
“aging-us.com” we learn that “Hyperbaric oxygen therapy increases telomere
length and decreases immunosenescence in isolated blood cells”. Mind you, this
is a very recent study, published on 11/18/20, and called a “prospective trial”.
However, not one to be put off by the newness of all this, I discovered that I
could purchase an HBOT for home use for pennies under 4K. If only I could trade in my car for an HBOT
chamber, having to walk everywhere would further boost the effects of my HBOT
machine!
My favorite thing to do is to ever so slightly live in a
fantasy world. Truth be told, over all else, this keeps me young, in my humble
opinion. My brain is sending young messages to my body. Without even knowing
it, apparently for years I have been trying to approximate the results of the
Langer study. In my mind I am a 9 year old galloping around on a horse, whizzing
down hills on a bike, and exploring scary looking places. So maybe next I will
buy a banana bike with pink tassels, although I don’t know if I would have the
social courage to ride it in public. The only other drawback to my plan is
being unable to subsist on my 9 year old diet, Almond Joy bars and Peanut M and
M’s.
Oh, and, I had a date with the first man to whom I lied
about my age. I wanted to use the date as an experiment for revealing my age,
but then again did not want to ruin things on the first date. What a terrible
quandary! Overall the date went remarkably well. He told me his age was not
accurately represented on Tinder as he just had a birthday two days prior to
our date, thus making him a year older. Well bless his honest little heart;
little did he know he is 4 years younger than me and that I was the biggest
liar of the two of us. But I thought this was the perfect opportunity to tell
him that I also lied about my age. He did not blink an eye, nor ask for my real
age, earning thousands of points for gentlemanly behavior. So I guess I maybe got
away with it, for now anyway. We shall see. I can tell you that a second date
has not been mentioned..
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